This class is for perfectionists who are tired of proving to themselves and the world that they are enough.
In this 2-hour workshop, we will explore the two hidden forces that we must understand to finally achieve radical self-acceptance.
This is when we are finally free of the inner critic's control, and we are equipped with the emotional and mental tools so we can continue to break through any limiting beliefs that make us feel stuck and small.
Perfectionism is tolerable...as long as you are always winning.
What happens when you cannot keep up?
You are told to manage your expectations
As if cutting down your to do list will fix the feelings of "never enough"
You are told it's a mindset issue
But using logic to question your feelings of unworthiness only gets you so far, and it makes you feel that there is something wrong with you because you can't get over it
You are told it's a matter of turning your unhealthy perfectionism into healthy perfectionism
You are led to believe that your best case scenario is managing your perfectionism, as if it was a disease that has no cure
How do I know this?
I've been there. I know this feeling too well.
Like you, I never stopped doing and searching for the thing that would finally make me feel whole and good enough.
I understand how it feels to have a life that looks good on paper, yet you walk around feeling that the rug will be pulled from underneath you...so you keep working to make sure that you are never in that position.
Nobody who feels this way should be told that the solution is to manage their expectations. You deserve better than that.
Living with perfectionism is exhausting, and it is a race you cannot win.
After a 30+ year struggle and hitting my personal rock bottom, I was finally fed up and I went through the painstaking process of discovering what could I be if perfectionism didn't rule my life.
From feeling unworthy to taking up space
I have managed to do what I thought was impossible: to envision the kind of woman I want to be, put a stake on that ground, and fucking stay there because I already am that woman.
I do not need to do anything to prove that to anyone or to convince myself....that battle is done.
I have arrived. All that's left is to build my life in that space.
No more doubting my self-worth. I am worthy.
No more wondering what is my purpose. I am living it.
No more inner critic that puts me down and makes me feel small. The inner critic cannot attack me anymore, because I am whole.
I am the woman I was imitating this whole time.
This is what radical self-acceptance feels like.
When you are able to do that, everything else becomes easier to manage.
The truth is, nothing worth doing is easy.
Any kind of growth and transformation is challenging, it takes time, and it will ask you to give up things that no longer serve you (and as we are creatures of habit, we can also be stubborn to let go of things EVEN if they do not help us!)
For you to be able to undergo that transformation and become the person you have been imitating all along...
You need to love yourself as you are NOW
Give yourself unconditional love, instead of the conditional love that you have experienced until now
You need to change your relationship with the parts of yourself that you don't like
So when you make a mistake, your inner critic doesn't lash out and you do not fall into your self-destructive coping mechanisms
These are the two hidden forces we need to understand.
But, above all else, you also need a process that can help you navigate this in a compassionate way.
I'll be blunt: most self-help is toxic. They make you think that empowerment is believing that you are entirely responsible for your experience and circumstances.
If that was the answer, you could have fixed yourself already by yelling at your mirror I AM GOOD ENOUGH until it felt real. And I'm guessing that if you are on this page, is because you know that doesn't work.
WILLPOWER IS NOT ENOUGH.
LOGIC DOESN'T CUT IT.
And you didn't *manifest* this struggle.🙄
Let me introduce you to a different way to explore this...
The Gifts of Alice
During this 2-hour masterclass, we will do a deep dive into the two hidden forces that we need to understand so we can reach that state of radical self-acceptance.
Then, I will introduce some useful concepts that will help you do that shift - as I am a nerd, a book lover, and a fan of anything that is surreal and absurd...we will use Alice in Wonderland as the story that will help us cement this knowledge in the exact place where all the fuckery happens - your subconscious.
This is why logic doesn't work - the source of your feelings of "not good enough" is not your conscious mind. All that baggage is in the subconscious, and if we learn to speak its language, we will learn how to get to radical self-acceptance.
The subconscious speaks in symbols and stories, and that's what we are going to use to communicate with it.
After the masterclass, you will continue your journey with a series of journaling prompts that will help you understand how these forces play out in your life.
Alice is the heroine in all of us. The little girl that was invincible and fearless, until the world started to chip away at her self-confidence and strength. That girl, that indomitable spirit, is still within you. But you must call her back.
Alice will show us the way.
By turning on the light on these hidden forces, and by using the gifts of Alice, you will gain a new level of self-awareness that will give you the courage to continue your journey to become who you are.
Less self-hatred and criticism, more joy and self-love!
75% of profits will go to The Platform, a Canadian organization that is "on a mission to reshape the political landscape to advance the priorities of young Black, Indigenous, and racialized women and gender-diverse youth."
I want to give back to the place that I have called home for most of my adult life.
But this is also my not-so-sneaky way to attract the people I want in my life - yes, even if it's just a Zoom call and we never cross paths again.
Those who are hurting, who see that the world is on fire, who can feel, even if they do not understand, that this is a tragic joke, and no way of living seems appropriate. There has to be another way, other than becoming a hermit, indifferent, bitter, cynical, or depressed.
I want to help others heal from perfectionism NOT so they can be a hyper efficient work machine. NO. I want the kind of liberation that leads to a soul-aligned life. It is our responsibility to take care of ourselves, and to see how we can use and share our gifts. We are part of a whole, and I am no longer ignoring this and living on the sidelines.